Crisis Averted

Once in a while, The Boy and I would exclaim that we haven't fought yet despite going out for x number of months. I find it really cute that we do that. It's also extremely pleasing to know we haven't fought yet.

In my last relationship, I knew we weren't going to last from the very beginning. Why did I get into it knowing that anyway? Um, "learning is a lifelong endeavor" is my excuse. Hehe. Two months into the relationship and I was already crying many bitter tears. What did we fight about?, friends asked. Really little things, I'd answer. It wasn't like we were of different religions or had opposing political views (how can that be when I have none? haha!)... it's just really little things.

Last night, The Boy and I almost got into a fight. Well, we got into a mild argument, but we both made a conscious effort to drop it, and really, it made all the difference. Over a round of beer, he chuckled at what almost occurred and he exclaimed, "So that's how it begins..."

It's all about butting heads and not letting the subject drop. I admit, I started the whole thing when I mentioned I was displeased by something he did, which he followed by a rationalization of doing what he did. Sometimes, reason is not what we're after, but emotion. Arguments break out when you *think* you're right. It pays to step back from your head-butting to realize you're going head-to-head over such a little trifle. And then you wonder, is it even worth it? And then you realize it's not and that time is more well-spent enjoying a nice cold bottle of beer (each!) hand-in-hand. :)