Say Uncle

I had the most interesting conversation with an uncle recently. Let's call him by the name of MP because he is a married priest. That is, he left the priesthood and THEN got married. Having studied a lot of psychology, and having seen the sacrament of marriage from both sides, he has a lot of insight on it. For example, he says of marriage (adapted from another priest he heard say this): "It's not about two people joining together to become one unit. It's two people holding hands to face the world." Aw.

He gave advice on how to build a successful relationship: "Kill your mother's instinct." He was referring to a female's natural capacity to nurture someone, but in the relationship context, it's more like saving someone. He has a point. The past few relationships I've been in, I did try to be the other person's life preserver/ life jacket. Not fun. It gets tiring after awhile. Years later I realized that you're really not supposed to be in a relationship to change/save him. Well, not in any major life-altering way. (bad haircuts and poor taste in clothes somewhat do not count. hehe.)

As a result, I've been thinking a lot about my relationship. I don't know if I'll succeed with this one. "There's no such thing as a 'perfect relationship'," he counseled. It can be a "perfecting" relationship where each day is a struggle to make it perfect, but it never is. It's just about having more crests than troughs. One point I remember from a, uh, seminar I attended a few years back, is if you still want to be with that person when you dislike him (her) the most, it's love. One of the most applicable things I've ever heard about the word love is it's a verb, not a noun, not an adjective. It denotes action, and a conscious one at that. You may fall in love, but choosing to stay in it? It's a choice one has to make.

Funny how I always feel like a novice when it comes to this stuff, at least in its application. I may write about it like I know sh*t about it, but I don't. There's always something new to learn. I'm sure the experts will agree. :)

Oh, Boy!

So we've been going out for nearly a month (but we've known each other for more than a year!) and it's pure bliss. I can't remember if it was always this way. Blame it on my poor memory, but I totally can't. Sure, there are times when he gets irritating, but I don't get irritated. Is that normal or is it just too early in the relationship?

It's funny I was telling him awhile ago that I can't get people who are so "out there" in the tangled web that is World Wide. Or couples for that matter. Of course I acknowledged how I loved reading sweet (not mushy!) entries by random people regarding their SO's, but I couldn't seem to do that.

Now here I am.

Somethingone's really gotten hold of me.

Real-life fairytale

And so it has begun.

It feels weird writing here in a mushy state of mind. And that's what I've been reduced to for the past month or so: mush.

Technically I should be changing blogs because the purpose of this is to document the looking part. And right now I'm not looking anymore. Well, in that sense. I'm still looking for my purpose in life, but that's another matter.

I think we have a nice story. Well, more on his part than mine. I was an unknowing accomplice to his plans.

I'd go into detail as to how I feel and how happy I am right now but I can't, being in this state of mush that I am in.

I can only agree with Frou-frou (or Imogen Heap, their vocalist) when they said, "It's good to be in love."

It really, really is. :)